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Battle begins to combat bullying
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on May 8, 2010
The Mountain View Whisman School District has taken up an unprecedented campaign against bullying in hopes of creating a safer, more respectful atmosphere in local schools.
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posted Friday, May 7, 2010, 12:00 AM
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Posted by Christine
a resident of Waverly Park
on May 10, 2010 at 11:56 pm
HINDSIGHT, I only wish.
If I had hindsight, My husband and I would have NEVER enrolled our children in MVWSD.
My Short Version - 1. when you have district and school leaders making excuses for, covering up and hiding bullying. 2. When you have other parents justifying the bullying - all because their child was not bullied. When the district is to concerned with *image, *budget, *reputation *state testing scores* to care and support the students and take action to protect the victims.... Bullies are not going anywhere!!
Longer version for those that are bored....
8 years ago, I was one of the biggest supporters of Huff Love. My husband and I loved how safe we felt with our children at school.
When the issue Bullying came up, we were completely inexperienced with dealing with any of it. Unfortunately our daughter suffered and is still affected by her experience 3 years later.(Thanks Craig)
She was abused/bullied by a teacher that MANY, many,(too many) knew to be abusive. The bullying continued by the children in class, that witnessed the teacher bullying children. I spoke with Craig Goldman, Stephanie Totter, and Maurice Ghysel on many occasions in person, by email and on the phone.... they did absolutely NOTHING.
The only way I can justify their actions or non-actions is "Lack of Spine".
They may have talked to her and told her not to yell quite so loud, but she was still there at 8am the next morning abusing and bullying her weakest students. I can understand the concern of the spanish speaking community in above article, because the next year this teacher seemed to have quite a lot of spanish speaking students. I can only assume it was because they would be less likely to say anything to their parents and also for the parents to speak up.
When I saw that, my faith and trust in the safety and caring at our schools had disappeared...
I have 4 children, and 3 of them are at Huff and Graham. I have watched as their educational needs, and safety have been pushed aside because...... well I am still trying to figure this out. I think it is budget and state testing. Those seem to be at the top of the list, at least from what we have personally experienced.
FYI Bullying happens everywhere... before and after school, in line for lunch, in classrooms, at break with many other students watching and doing nothing to help.
Facts....(really long version for those that can't sleep)
In the past 2 1/2 years I have had student that (on separate occasions) was pushed,
punched in the stomach,
slapped in the face and
run over by a bicyclist on purpose.
We have had 3 back packs stolen, one from a class room, the library and the gym on a rainy day. We have had to replace backpacks, and entire contents every time, oh and we had to pay for new PE uniforms also.
My other student has been bullied, and teased, pushed at Graham. When she was hit in the face this year by another girl she did not want to say anything. When we finally got her to stand up for herself and we met with Gretchen and Mr. Verduzco. They were clearly more concerned with covering them selves legally than ANYTHING my daughter experienced, or had to say. The next morning my daughter was suppose to sit right next to "the Hitter" in another class - nothing had been done yet again, teacher was completely unaware. SAFE? No, so she stayed home and emailed her teachers and worked from home... Then the office was kind enough to report her as truant for those 2 unexcused absences...Safe? Oh, I forgot to mention the ipods that have been stolen from pe lockers - but my daughter was told by that it was her fault that hers was stolen.
I guess that my point (sorry so long winded) is that when I read that Stephanie Totter says
""I don't think bullying is going to go away," but the district can be "better equipped about how to handle it and how to deal with it and how to minimize it,". I BELIEVE IT. Their VALUES seem to have changed (or disappeared) from our students loving to learn, being happy and feeling safe to "Huff is a "10", and raising state testing scores.
When your Superintendent, CFO, HR Rep, Principal, other Principal and Vice Principal don't have what it takes to stand up for or even recognized BULLYING (Mrs. P still on vacation?) ... then yes Stephanie, you are brilliant-it is not going to go away.
We have some awesome teachers that listen to and stand up for our kids, but unfortunately we have some newer teachers that are clueless because they have role models like Craig, Maurice, and Stephnie... and they now see nothing wrong.
MVWSD is not going to ensure anyones safety... they don't even take responsibility for a back pack.. YOU need to talk to your kids about bullying, what to do if it happens to them or if they witness i. Follow your gut if you think something is wrong don't be afraid to speak up...(no matter what language). If you speak up someone will listen. Children are children, it does not matter who made them. If they are being treated poorly, bullied, or scared stand up for them and protect them. It is wrong! Another School Rule is not going to make kids safe. Parents need to stick together and let the bullies and the schools know we are watching not going to stand for it.
I have 3 children in MVWSD and I was a FOOL for thinking they were going to protect my kids.