No College for Tooth Fairies Kids in Tow, posted by Jennifer Fogliani, a resident of the Whisman Station neighborhood, on Jul 10, 2011 at 3:51 pm Jennifer Fogliani is a member (registered user) of Mountain View Online
My daughter, Josie, doesn't want to go to college. She told us one day as we drove down El Camino and I pointed out Stanford University, the school where I graduated from almost 10 years ago.
Since Josie is only 3, you'd think I would just let it slide. But my daughter is incredibly bright and has so much potential. It bothered me that she already made up her mind not to go.
Maybe she looked over my shoulder as I balanced my check book online and realized funding for college in 2026 wasn't looking good. Maybe she just needed to talk about it more.
"Why don't you want to go?" I asked her as I turned around and looked at her in her car seat.
"I just don't," she said as she picked up the book in her lap and started turning the pages.
"I want to go to college," my two year old son, Owen, said as he looked at me from under the bill of his Giants hat in the car seat next to Josie's. "I'm going to play baseball in college."
"Great idea," My husband, Norm, said. Owen must have been with Josie when she was checking out our finances. But Owen came up with a good plan - he was going to get a scholarship.
I turned my attention back to Josie. "What do you want to be when you grow up?" I asked Josie.
"Um," Josie thought as she turned another page of her Doctor Dora book. "I think a doctor," she said.
Sweet Victory! I had her.
"Well, Josie, if you want to be a doctor you have to go to college. And then you have to go to a special college just for doctors. So I guess you'd better go," I said. I rolled down the window to feel the fresh breeze while I enjoyed my parenting success.
I could hear the thud as Josie's Doctor Dora book fell to the ground. "What about the Tooth Fairy? Do I have to go to college if I'm going to be the Tooth Fairy?"
Norm, did his best to contain his laughter as he turned left on California Ave. I was too irritated to find any humor in her ability to stump me in less time than it took for the car window to roll down.
"Huh, Mom? Does the Tooth Fairy have to go to college?" Josie asked waiting for me to verbalize her victory.
"No, Josie," I mumbled. "The Tooth Fairy doesn't have to go to college."
"Huh? Say it louder," she said.
"You're right. You don't have to go to college," I said loudly as I sunk down in my seat.
"Yeahhhhh!" Josie said.
I thought for a minute about my college experience and how much I learned about myself and and how much I grew during my time at Stanford. I wouldn’t be who I am today without the professors who taught me, the friends who encouraged me and the campus that inspired me. 'She has to go,' I thought.
I looked back at my daughter in the rearview mirror as she danced in her car seat to Katy Perry's song Firework. 'What am I even worried about?' I thought, calming myself down. I'll just wait 10 years and tell her about frat parties, football games and streaking through the quad. She'll be enrolled before her 14th birthday.
Posted by Jennifer Fogliani, a resident of the Whisman Station neighborhood, on Jul 10, 2011 at 7:28 pm
@ Just have to ask...
Thanks for taking the time to comment on my post. I am resident of the Mountain View community and I write a weekly blog for the Voice calle d Kids in Tow.
In general, I write about things I do in the community with my children. One of the things I love about Mountain View is the proximity to other great cities, which is why I shared an experience I had in a neighboring community, Palo Alto.
You might prefer my earlier posts which are more specific to Mountain View.
Posted by No Whinners, a resident of the Cuesta Park neighborhood, on Jul 12, 2011 at 11:10 am
@Just have to ask...I'm so sorry someone came into your house and forced you to click on a web link. Its shocking to think someone can have no control over what they view online, that somehow, someone forces them to click, then read a story. Its even more shocking to then have that same person force you to take time out of your obviously busy day to comment on the story you found so worthless.
Long ago we were responsible for what we chose to read. I could choose which magazine to pick off the rack, and if I didn't like it, I wouldn't blame the publisher or the book store, I would accept personal responsibility since I was in control of my own actions. I guess its not that way anymore.
Oh, and could someone please let me know what story of local importance was scheduled to be published here but "bumped" because there apparently wasn't "enough room"?
Jennifer, all kidding aside, I love the way you're seeing MV for the first time and reminding us all again why its such a great place. Also, welcome to the big time world of online media, you've attracted your first "Snark puppy" :)
Posted by No Whinners, a resident of the Cuesta Park neighborhood, on Jul 12, 2011 at 12:13 pm
@Huh, I don't think I ever told anyone what to comment on or what not to comment on, but I will admit to holding up a mirror to those who may not realize how silly they are being.
If you do see a statement in my post where I direct someone to specifically post or not to post about something, please paste it in your next response. I have a feeling you didn't comprehend my original post so I'm looking forward to being able to clarify things for you.
Posted by Ron, a resident of the Waverly Park neighborhood, on Jul 13, 2011 at 10:40 am
@Just have to ask, Huh, and other names you use because you use the "Name" field for your topic heading:
This blog article is in the Town Square section. It is not news, nor was it intended to be. If you want news, you read the "News" section. Papers, online and otherwise, often have things in them that are not 'news'. Comics, reviews, want ads, editorials, all not news and all in the paper. Unless you are strapped to a chair and forced to read EVERY article on a web site or paper, I fail to see the complaint.
That said, who stresses about a 3 year old not wanting to go to college. Her mind on that sort of thing will change 100 times a year between now and then! There will be PLENTY to freak out about until then.
Posted by Jennifer Fogliani, a resident of the Whisman Station neighborhood, on Jul 13, 2011 at 12:24 pm Jennifer Fogliani is a member (registered user) of Mountain View Online
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I completely agree with you that I shouldn't stress about whether my 3 year old wants to go to college. But it was an honest moment, one that many parents of young children have when we get too consumed with always wanting the best for our children, instead of just letting things happen naturally. I shared the story as way to highlight how crazy I was in the moment - moments that unfortunately happen a lot as I try to navigate this parenting thing. Thanks for your insight.
Posted by Cecy, a resident of the Shoreline West neighborhood, on Jul 14, 2011 at 8:40 pm
Don't stress about your 3 year old not wanting to go to college yet. She's too young. You'll see that in 10 years or less she'll be thinking of where to go to college. I think it's cute how she wants to be the tooth fairy. That's unique. Kids always say they want to be a cop or teacher.