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Kid's Recreation = Mom's Relaxation

Original post made by Jennifer Fogliani, Whisman Station, on Oct 16, 2011

On Monday, my daughter, Josie, said she wanted to take a dance class. On Tuesday, she had moved onto gymnastics and by Wednesday she had no interest in either.

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Posted by Rosi
a resident of another community
on Oct 17, 2011 at 8:37 am

Thanks for sharing! Your mother's wonderful advice was matched by your wonderful willingness to give her advice a try! As a grandmother of kiddies who have benefited to gymnastics classes, I heartily agree, that gymnastics for toddlers is a great idea. Enjoy!

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Posted by Elaine
a resident of Cuesta Park
on Oct 18, 2011 at 1:40 pm

I think you might be depressed or maybe misjudged motherhood and its demands and rewards. A common thread in all your articles is how you are always trying to find a break from your kids. Maybe you haven't noticed, but it's there. You whine when you have everything. Enjoy your kids now. Savor the time with them.

This article:

"I get to relax a little while my children follow the fabulous teacher around the gym and have a blast "in tow" of someone other than me."

Last week's article:

"Plus, while they slide, my husband and I sit on hay barrels, watch our children and actually have a conversation."

Two weeks ago:

"My husband asked if I wanted to buy a book for the flight. I laughed aloud and said I hadn't read a book on a flight since our oldest child was born 4 years ago."

Before you know it they will be grown up and gone and you'll have all the time in the world and regret writing these things.

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Posted by Jennifer Fogliani
a resident of Whisman Station
on Oct 18, 2011 at 1:52 pm

@ Elaine

I consider myself a very honeset person - my writing is filled with both the ups and downs of parenting. I think feeling overwhelmed and like you need a break is a very common reaction for stay-at-home moms. It's what I feel at times and so it's what I share with the readers.

My blog is also filled with plenty of positive experiences and memories. I look forward to one day sharing it with my children when they are older - knowing me and how open and honest I am - I am sure my children will be able to understand my point of view.

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Posted by MammaMia!
a resident of Cuesta Park
on Oct 18, 2011 at 6:38 pm

My goodness, must we be so judgmental? Any mother of preschoolers knows that opportunities to sit down for a few minutes are precious, and taking advantage of them doesn't make a mother's children any less precious to her. Smart moms take advantage of a little down time so they have more energy to devote to their little ones for the other 23.5 hours of the day.

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Posted by Bubb mom too
a resident of Cuesta Park
on Oct 19, 2011 at 11:15 am


Yes, we love our children, but they have so much energy. Far more than we do. Children demand constant attention. It's hard to even think your own thoughts if you have a "talker." It was years before I could even go to the bathroom alone. Everyone needs some me time. I do agree that sometimes we need to remind ourselves to enjoy this time while we can.


You are not a whiner. You are doing fine! Get your breaks in when you can. A tired and stressed out mom can be a grumpy mom.

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Posted by Observer
a resident of Old Mountain View
on Oct 19, 2011 at 1:46 pm

I sometimes wonder just what percentage of the world, or of which classes, can possibly afford the luxury of some "me" time. It's a purely American construct.