No Words Required | Couple's Net | Chandrama Anderson | Mountain View Online |

Local Blogs

Couple's Net

By Chandrama Anderson

E-mail Chandrama Anderson

About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...  (More)

View all posts from Chandrama Anderson

No Words Required

Uploaded: Jun 30, 2014
I was in Berkeley recently, and as I got in the car with the window rolled most of the way up, I noticed a couple passing on the sidewalk. I could not hear their words; only her tone of voice and see their body language.

She spoke in the "tone" couples often complain about in my office. He replied, and it was below my hearing level. She said something else in the same tone and I saw him throw both hands up from the elbows. Then they were out of sight.

Begin to notice the couples you see. What tone do you hear? What facial expressions or body language do you notice? Does someone roll their eyes at the other (showing contempt)? Do they face toward or away from one another? Does one dominate the conversation?

You can see this through car windows, cafes or restaurants, or as you walk down the street.

Of course, eventually, I want you to begin to notice your tone and body language with your mate. But be an observer for a while first.

Let me know what you see.
We need your support now more than ever. Can we count on you?

Comments

There are no comments yet for this post

Follow this blogger.
Sign up to be notified of new posts by this blogger.

Email:

SUBMIT

Post a comment

Sorry, but further commenting on this topic has been closed.

Stay informed.

Get the day's top headlines from Mountain View Online sent to your inbox.

I am a covid coward – and also angry at anti-vaxxers
By Diana Diamond | 52 comments | 7,551 views

Sushinaloa adds Mexican spice to Japanese sushi
By The Peninsula Foodist | 0 comments | 5,067 views

Premarital and Couples: ". . . Then it’s all downhill from there.”
By Chandrama Anderson | 0 comments | 3,693 views

 

Meet the Winners!

To show appreciation for the local business community, readers voted for their favorite places to eat, shop, work out or spend time with family and friends. The Mountain View Voice is proud to unveil this year's Best Of honorees.

View Winners