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Love Comes Quietly

Uploaded: Jun 29, 2017
Love comes quietly,
Finally drops around me,
On me, in the old way.

What did I know,
Thinking myself able to go alone
All the way?

- Robert Creely

Are you in a loving marriage or relationship? Are still trying to go it alone within that structure? Are you trying to go it alone?

Many people’s life experiences leave them able to love, kind of. With certain barriers. Do you want to have a close partner, but are afraid for reasons that likely come from much earlier in life?

There are a lot of ways to go it alone within a relationship. You know how you do it—or do you? (We can be blind to our own patterns.) Do you know how your partner goes alone? Does s/he know how you do? There’s nothing wrong with living parallel lives, except there’s so much more that you can have.

Little kids first play by themselves, and then when they get a bit older and other kids are there, they play in parallel (each doing their own thing, but in proximity). Eventually kids play together. You can learn from kids.

I had to do a lot of things myself growing up. So I’m a very independent woman and go after what I want. And I’ve had to learn to surrender and let my husband walk with me, help me, hold me up at times. It didn’t come naturally. But now that I let him, life is better than it ever has been. The intimacy that I get to have with him is exquisite (I mean closeness, trust, talking, going places, laughter, emotional vulnerability, etc.). And I want that for you, too.

So let deep, vulnerable, intimate love fall on you quietly. Together.




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