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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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All joking about James aside, the Bond Touch is a pretty fun and nifty gadget. The overview is that it’s a wrist-worn device that you tap and your partner (whether near or far) gets buzzed by his/her Bond Touch. It’s designed to help long-distance couples feel closer.
At first I had trouble setting it up, but eventually prevailed (you have to leave the app open all the time). They have good tech support. Then I thought it was kinda hokey; why not just text my beloved? But when my husband went to San Juan Island in Washington for eight days, I changed my tune. I knew he was busy and I didn’t necessarily want to text him since I didn’t need a reply. I just wanted to let him know I was thinking of him.
Then there was the laughter over using it as a vibrating sex toy (no, we didn’t try that, but it was a fun conversation).
If you travel or have a long distance relationship, it’s a great way to reach out and touch her/him. You can even set up what the vibrations mean: long, short, number of them, etc., can stand for things like “I love you” or “I miss you” or “I’m hot for you” or “Come home soon”.
I’m a huge proponent of being together and talking face-to-face (we regulate one another that way. Video or FaceTime or Google Hangouts would be next. Phone calls. Text would be my last choice. When people say they are talking, I have to clarify if they mean actual talk, not text. But if you’re far away (and have time zones to deal with), even James might like the Bond Touch.