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Premarital and Couples: What Happens in Vegas Doesn't Stay in Vegas

Uploaded: Feb 19, 2021
What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas--NOT!

Even though there is little traveling now due to Covid, the principles here still hold.

These two quotes are from Urban Dictionary:

"It happened. It only happened there. And it happened far enough away [not to have any negative effect on the "the here and now." And anyone who wasn't there at the time need not know about it. So . . . move on. But keep the memories. ;)"

 Dane Cook's intro to a recent show in Las Vegas:
"...great to be back here in Vegas . . . you know how they say 'what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas'. . . ? Well I have a new saying . . . if it happens in Vegas, and I see it . . . I'm . . . telling EVERYBODY!!"'

What a brilliant marketing campaign. I'm guessing that someone got paid very well for that one!

However, it is not true, and I have seen and heard too many stories of how it has come home, much to the harm of individuals and relationships. How would you feel if you or your partner had:

Been robbed of money and/or belongings
Gotten drunk and don't know what happened
Gotten drunk and ended up with a sex worker
Contracted a STD

I am certainly not one to tell you not to have fun or cut loose from everyday stress. I am big on self-care. I do encourage you, however, to take care of yourself and your relationship.

(If unwinding has to include a great deal of alcohol, then that's another important conversation that needs to be had.) One of the problems with alcohol is that once you've had that first drink, your ability to make good decisions is already compromised.

So if you want to go to Vegas, go together, or with friends that support your marriage (which is different than friends that support you).

Have fun in Vegas; there's a lot to do there.
We need your support now more than ever. Can we count on you?

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